Several months ago, I noticed an odd phenomenon. Most days, at the office, I checked the time at precisely 11:06 a.m. At first, this just made me pause and smile to myself. But, after several instances, I considered this random event more consciously.
Dennis and my wedding anniversary is November 6th. Seeing 11:06 on the clock on a nearly daily basis, was a sweet reminder of my husband and our marriage. I started emailing or texting Dennis when I caught “our time” on the clock. Such a small little thing, but it was fun to turn it into something special in our daily routine.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that noticing 11:06 began during this stage in our life. I’ve been quite aware lately that marriages are difficult to maintain. We’re in the child raising phase of life and it’s very easy to let the world revolve around our kids. While we love them like crazy, ultimately Sienna and Mateo are going to grow up, leave the nest, find a spouse, and create a family of their own (at least that’s our hope and prayer!). Building a life that revolves around them will not bode well for our marriage once they’re launched into the world.
Dennis and I were friends before we fell in love, bonding over a shared love of sports, faith, and San Diego. We still have a lot in common; there are so many things we enjoy doing together. Football is Dennis’s passion. When we lived downtown, before we had kids, going out to watch the Dolphins’ game was a weekly tradition. Then, for several years, I was too distracted with my need to plan and so “in my head” that I didn’t make the time to sit down and watch a football game with Dennis. As we settled in to watch football together today, I reached for his hand and decided to just watch the game and share this time with my husband. Productivity went out the window today, but our relationship got nurtured, so that’s a win.
In the busyness of life, it’s easy to accept so many invitations and requests for our time that we don’t have space to connect to the most important people in our lives. To protect and support our marriage, we’re making an effort to consciously connect on a daily basis, even if it’s just sharing about our day for a few minutes without the kids’ interrupting! We just restarted our coffee date routine today, as Sunday school resumed for the year. It’s my favorite. We’re looking forward to some “date days” once I get through this fall busy season at work. We’re making it a priority to spend meaningful time with one another. That’s something worth planning!
At the beginning of this year, we decided this was the year of “Only What’s Essential”. In my life, Dennis is essential.
On the drive home from church this morning, I glanced at the clock. It was 11:06. “Look, Babe!” I said and pointed to the clock. It turned to 11:07 about 3 seconds later, but we caught “our time”.