In one of my favorite movies, The Holiday, Jack Black’s character tells Kate Winslet’s character about the amazing soundtrack from the film The Mission. It was a scene I watched over and over but never thought much about the composer that’s specifically mentioned: Morricone.
Over the past several weeks, I’ve been doing a lot of studying and often need to drown out the noise of my family or students (in my shared office/classroom). I’m listening to classical music on Amazon Music and Pandora daily at this point and have discovered many beautiful songs. My favorite though is Yo-Yo Ma’s performance of Gabriel’s Oboe which is from The Mission and was composed by Ennio Morricone.
I suppose I knew life would feel unsettled during my first year of teaching. That’s totally to be expected, right? I don’t have any established and practiced routines for lesson planning. Everything is new to me: taking attendance, classroom routines, software programs, you name it.
But, my ability to suppress unwanted feelings is incredibly strong. It’s a gift, really. I’m able to reframe situations and circumstances so I don’t feel the anxiety of the unknown, for awhile anyway. This typically takes the form of avoidance of reality. Then the ensuing panic hits and I hit my knees in prayer as I recognize my control strategy has backfired.
The irony isn’t lost on me. While I love history and enjoy the process of studying and preparing lessons, my desire to teach well combined with inexperience triggers anxiety. However, when I’m able to make room for my feelings of anxiety and engage in the work, both with students and the preparation beforehand, wonderful feelings of joy and purpose pour in!
My mindfulness strategies from The Happiness Trap have served me very well lately. Likewise, lessons about embracing a growth mindset, which our school deeply values. The harsh inner voice that whispers that I’m not capable, don’t know enough, or will not measure up gets louder in times of stress and anxiety. Being able to accept these feelings and defuse these thoughts allows me to fully connect to the present moment. Then, in the present moment I can connect with my students, the class content, and whatever needs my attention. I then make room for growth: for them and for me.
God has equipped me for this vocation, in this place, for this time. When I rest in this truth and trust that God will daily provide for my needs, the harsh inner voice gets a lot quieter. God isn’t asking me to be a perfect teacher. He doesn’t expect me to confidently know what I’m doing in my first full week of classes! My job is simply to use the gifts he’s given me and the passion he’s put in my heart to engage in teaching his beloved children.
At lunch after church today, I shared my feelings of anxiety with Dennis, Sienna and Mateo. Getting out of my head by talking about these feelings brought such relief. I needed to be honest with myself and my family by saying aloud that I would be working a lot this year. I want to study and be well prepared for teaching. It’s not a burden, but a gift. This vocation is what I’ve prayed about for years. Growing in my skills as a teacher will take devotion and effort, but it’s so worth it. They were completely supportive and tears prickled my eyes as I realized, once again, that I can ask for help and rely on my family for support.
So, this is where I am right now. In the messy middle of learning, growing, engaging, and praying.
Today is the 28th anniversary of my diagnosis with Type 1 Diabetes. Thanks to Facebook, I had the opportunity to review my many postings each July 27th over the past ten years. Exactly a decade ago I celebrated 18 years of living with diabetes and shared my joy of being complication free. Today at 28 years, I’ve now dealt with my first complication: diabetic retinopathy. Though difficult at times, I’m now familiar with the laser treatment and it’s not so scary.
Diabetes is a constant companion in my daily life. Whatever else is going on, each day I test my blood about ten times, deliver an injection of long-acting insulin, calculate and inject fast-acting insulin for meals, and gauge my activities from exercise to water consumption based on blood sugar management needs.
Fortunately, I tend to enjoy routine (and diabetes loves routine!). Also, I’ve long ago resigned myself to eating healthfully and enduring the blood sugar results when I choose to indulge! So, while diabetes is relentless in its presence, I don’t find it particularly bothersome. Most of the time.
So, on this anniversary, I’m going to focus on my precious life as I celebrate that diabetes hasn’t adversely impacted in (much) over the past 28 years.
I’ve been in a huge period of transition the past couple months! My last day at CBIZ was June 11th and my family promptly hit the road for our annual Northern California trip just two days later. Dennis, me, Sienna, and Mateo left our sweet dog Claira in the care of neighbors and drove up to Dennis’s hometown of Marysville first. We spent a few days relaxing with family and our dear friend John, including a fun day in Old Town Sacramento before the high heat hit. Next we spent two nights at my cousin Pam’s horse ranch in the Sierra Nevada foothills. It’s was lovely to visit and get the kids on horses, even though the heat was oppressive! Finally, we traded the hot temperatures for Humboldt fog as we enjoyed a couple weeks with my family. Dennis and I spent most of the trip at our family ranch, making daytrips into town for activities.
Having this prolonged trip away provided a great transition period for me to adjust to life without a corporate job and time to embrace my new vocation as student and teacher. For the first week or so, I experienced this nagging feeling that there was something on my phone I needed to check. I realized that it was my old CBIZ email that was giving me these phantom pangs of responsibility. Instead of responding to inquiries and solving a seemingly endless string of management issues, my job was now to read a huge stack of historical texts.
While on vacation at the ranch, I got to finish a book on the Byzantine empire and start one on the Peloponnesian War while sitting by the pool. “I can’t believe this is my job right now!” I kept exclaiming to Dennis who lovingly sat beside me with a book for hours at a time. During this season we also enjoyed watching our Phoenix Suns in the NBA playoffs. They had a great run which was really fun for us!
Back home, I’ve been able to embrace my scholarly life and am learning the rhythms of my body (i.e. reading between 4:00 pm and 6:00 pm is impossible!) so I can structure my days efficiently. Dennis and I had about 10 days at home sans children as Sienna and Mateo stayed up in Humboldt with family before my mom (aka Gaga) brought them home in the middle of July. During that stretch, we had a lovely ladies reunion with my friend Melinda and I got a lot of studying done. When Gaga and the kids got back, we had fun shopping for “school clothes” for me and exploring San Diego in the summer time between study sessions. Next week starts full-time training on campus and I’m so excited to dig in!
Several years ago, I realized that one thing I never prayed about was my diabetes. I quickly changed that and started praying for God’s wisdom and guidance when blood sugar management became overwhelming. Through God’s grace in teaching me acceptance, my perspective on diabetes has become more flexible. I can see how routines and habits can be helpful for a season and then need to be adjusted as life or my body changes. I expect there will be some diabetes routine tweaks in order as the school years begins and my daily life looks different.
Sienna asked me the other day if I would tell my students about my diabetes. I paused, since I hadn’t considered it at all yet. Considering my desire to be open and transparent I replied, “Yes, I definitely will”. I want to be authentically present to my students and diabetes has been a part of me for 28 years.
Diabetes is a constant companion and it will be along for the ride as I start this next chapter of life.
In early February, a recruiter reached out to me via LinkedIn about a position in a law firm. After nearly a year of the pandemic plus plans for a restructuring of my team at work, I felt ready to make a change. I updated my resume for the first time in over a decade! As I engaged in the recruiting process, I contemplated what God had planned for my life’s work. The law firm job was enticing from a compensation standpoint, but it also sounded very intense and potentially soul crushing.
While praying about the future on Ash Wednesday, I suddenly thought: If I’m going to leave CBIZ, I should pursue my heart’s desire, which is to work at Cambridge. I wonder if they are hiring right now. I should check…
My dream for the past few years has been to teach at The Cambridge School. In 2008, I finished my Master’s Degree in History but then put my teaching dream on hold for financial reasons. CBIZ has been a wonderful place to work and grow for over 16 years, and it provided well for me and our family. However, my desire to teach and participate in a school community was ever present. As the kids matriculated to Cambridge and experienced a rich Christian, classical curriculum, it rekindled my passion for this kind of formative education.
Upon checking the Cambridge Careers webpage, I was ecstatic to find a posting for a newly created position: History Department Chair for the Upper School! The full description confirmed my hunch that this was my dream job! It had the administrative, operations and leadership responsibilities that I’d cultivated during my years at CBIZ, plus the joy of teaching history! My heart sank when I read the requirements which included an advanced degree in History and five years of teaching experience. My teaching experience was deficient, limited to just one year teaching as a Graduate Assistant at SDSU.
As God’s perfect timing rolled out, Dennis and I had a video call scheduled with the Head of School and Director of Advancement, Jean and Jeff, the very next morning. Dennis and I discussed and decided to ask them on the call whether I should apply for the position or not. Maybe the experience issue would be a non-starter. I prayed that God’s will would be done and eagerly anticipated our call the next morning. We had a delightful conversation and both Jean and Jeff encouraged me to apply for the position!
The next week was a whirlwind! Turns out the recruiting process was wrapping up so I hustled to complete the application and essay questions before turning my attention to preparing for my demo lesson on Friday. I was asked to prepare a lesson for the modern European History class, which had already covered the Scientific Revolution and Enlightenment philosophies. Since the class just started studying the French Revolution, I chose to teach a lesson on how Enlightenment ideas shaped the French Revolution.
I’m teaching a demo lesson in three days on a topic I’m not entirely comfortable with yet! This idea was equal parts terrifying and exhilarating! I prayed constantly as I sought insight, focus, and a whole lot of inner calm. One of my favorite verses brought such peace: Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:4-7
Off to Barnes & Noble I went after work on Tuesday evening to get my source material. My little scholarly heart was overjoyed to have a topic to research! The next morning I woke up at 3:30 a.m. and couldn’t get back to sleep as ideas and questions popped into my mind. Finally at 5:00 a.m. I got up, started the coffee, and dug into the readings. I spent all day reading, taking notes, and formulating an outline of the historical events. Dennis watched me and commented, “You’re loving this, aren’t you?”
“Yes, so much!” I replied. Getting to use these mental muscles was pure joy, plus I was fueled by the nervous energy of striving for a job I wanted so badly. Giddiness interspersed with moments of terror characterized those few days.
It was really sweet to watch the kids, Sienna in particular, grapple with the idea of their mom working at Cambridge. At first, Sienna was wary. On Wednesday evening she said to me, “You should get this job, mom. You’re working so hard.” Then, on Thursday afternoon as we sat in the Starbucks drive-thru, she dreamily commented, “Oh, I could tell kids ‘My mom works at Cambridge!’” My sweet girl.
As my notes and timeline came together, I struggled with finding the right balance between lecture and discussion for the demo class. I’d come across a great primary source to read and discuss: the French Declaration of the Rights of Man and Citizen. It was drafted during the revolution and clearly showed the influence of Enlightenment philosophies. By practicing my lecture over dinner to Dennis, Sienna and Mateo, I was able to identify places to cut back to make room for the discussion. After calling my brother (who did the same Great Books program as me at St. Mary’s) to talk through my plans, I finally felt ready!
By the time Friday morning arrived, I was full of excited energy. When my anxiety flared, I kept praying and reminding myself to be fully present to soak in every moment. The interviews, conversations, and lunch gathering were all so stimulating and supportive. I felt such a connection and so comfortable with the wonderful people who already found their vocations at Cambridge. The demo lesson went well! I identified some things I wished I’d done differently, but all in all, I was proud of what I accomplished.
The thing I want to remember from this experience is how utterly I depended on God for peace, grace, and wisdom during the days of preparation. It was a real life illustration of how a growth mindset sets you free to try your best. If I had a fixed mindset or was hooked by fears of failure (i.e. perfectionism!) I would have collapsed under the stress of preparing for the demo lesson and interviews.
In hindsight, I could see how God only gave me the information I needed to take each next step in faith. If I’d known when I asked Jean and Jeff about the position that I’d be teaching a demo lesson a week later, I may not have had the courage to ask! As it happened, I just took the next step and prayed fervently for strength, wisdom, and peace to handle each task in front of me.
I’ve also reflected a lot over the ensuing months about the ways God equips us for our vocations in his kingdom slowly throughout our lives. My undergrad program at Saint Mary’s and then my MA in History were wonderful preparation to teach in a classical school. Obviously, I had no way of knowing that Cambridge was in my future when embarking on those studies, but God did. Likewise, it’s fulfilling to see how my experiences at CBIZ helped me build skills that are transferrable to a school setting.
As the Holy Spirit suggested might happen (during one of my morning runs), rather than the History Department Chair, I was offered a position to teach history in the upper school! Cambridge is giving me the opportunity to grow into the chair role by providing the teaching experience I need. I’m so humbled and grateful that they are giving me time and space to grow. What a gift and further confirmation that God equips us over time.
It’s so exciting to finally share this news! I’m wrapping up my time at CBIZ next week, after almost 16 ½ years. Transitions are hard, but the past few months have given me time to adjust and the leadership has been very supportive. I’ve developed some special relationships at work that can now become personal friendships.
Now I’m off to read and prepare for my two classes next fall!
While on my long run Saturday morning, I noticed my thoughts were demanding all my attention. Try as I might to be present and in touch with the moment, I kept getting pulled into my head as judgments caught my attention: I hate how my eyes keep watering! This run isn’t feeling all that great. Am I going to turn at Camino Del Sur or keep going down the bike path? Why can’t I stop thinking so much?! Rubbing my eyes so much can’t be good for the dark circles under my eyes… Etc.
I came to a hill, (ironically, the same place where I thought of the idea for this post about not fearing the hills!) and I could feel myself struggle against the pain of running up the hill. I didn’t want to go through the discomfort, though I’d been looking forward to running this particular route for the past week. It hit me, I was not accepting my feelings at all. I wanted to go on feeling steady and comfortable, which doesn’t allow you to do hard things, like run hills!
I prayed for help: “God, please help me get out of my head and accept my feelings.” I thanked my mind for all the stories and actively connected to the moment. I started observing my thoughts instead of fusing with them, which allowed me to see the critical nature of all these thoughts.
Oh yeah, it’s my harsh inner critic! I suddenly realized. It’s amazing how in touch I’ll be with this part of me and then completely forget it even exists.
So, obviously the harsh inner critic is just me. It’s the voice that tells me I have to do things perfectly. I must always make the right decision in terms of food choices, insulin doses, activities, behavior, etc. It tells me to strive harder and then proudly praises me when I accomplish something. It also judges, judges, judges, all the time. I mean, how can you tell you’re doing the “right” thing unless you identify all the “wrong” things? Black and white, all or nothing thinking is very important for the inner critic.
What I’m referring to as the inner critic is also described as the “false self” my others. The “Old Adam” is how Luther describes the remaining sinful nature that is alive and active in us, even though we are redeemed and sanctified through baptism into the triune God.
It’s insidious how this part of me gets triggered. It’s been triggered in the past by keeping a planner and wearing a tracking watch; really anything that helps me measure my performance. Recently, I realized that social media, Instagram in particular, caused me to judge my healthy eating and exercise habits against those “influencers” I follow. I’d started to compare my routines against these curated ones and found myself coming up short. It’s crazy that I kept putting these images in front of me!
It helps to refer to this part of me as a separate entity so I can more easily identify how unhelpful this perfectionistic attitude is. But, it’s actually just my sinful nature rearing its head. When I’m in this state, it’s like I tell God, “Thanks for all you’ve done for me; I’ve got it from here!”
I know that I’m not performing for God’s approval, his love for me is unconditional and assured. I’m performing for my own sense of accomplishment and gratification. I want my inner critic to go easy on me, so I choose rightly to keep the condemnation to a minimum.
Oh, the peace and relief that comes when I recognize my striving and surrender – it’s incredible! Today’s sermon at church touched my heart deeply as Pastor Horn reminded us: “In baptism, you have God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit constantly watching over you and taking care of your every need.” When I repent and accept grace as the free gift it is, the inner critic gets awfully quiet. After all, there’s now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, (Romans 8:1). Amen.
For the past several months, I’ve started the day by reading the Daily Lectionary most mornings. The lectionary provides readings from the Old Testament, New Testament and a Psalm for each day, following the themes of the church year. Mateo picked up on this routine and started asking me to wake him up early so he could do “devotions” with me.
Yesterday morning we read from Luke over breakfast, concluding chapter 11 with Jesus’s warnings to the religious hypocrites of his day. This led to a great conversation with the kids about the dangers of self-righteousness. We talked about constantly returning to Christ’s grace and our need for forgiveness, rather than trying to uphold the law ourselves and then looking down on the sins of others.
The Lutheran Study Bible has wonderful notes and prayers that I cherish! This reading shared the lyrics of a hymn in the form of prayer:
Not what I feel or do Can give me peace with God; Not all my prayers and sighs and tears Can bear my awful load.
Thy work along, O Christ, Can ease this weight of sin; Thy blood alone, O Lamb of God, Can give me peace within. “Not What These Hands Have Done” (Lutheran Service Book, 567: 2-3)
There’s such freedom in this knowledge as we acknowledge, over and over again, that our peace, hope and salvation are because of Christ’s work, not our own. When I readily accept this grace, (which includes repenting of my sinfulness), I allow the kids to receive grace too. Which, in turn, turns the pressure down on all of us!
When I looked up the hymn reference, I found such comfort and peace in the fourth verse:
Thy love to me, O God, Not mine, O Lord, to Thee, Can rid me of this dark unrest And set my spirit free. “Not What These Hands Have Done” (Lutheran Service Book, 567: 4)
“Mom, can we go for a walk? I’m almost done with my homework,” Teo asked.
“Sure, let’s go!”
“Let’s see if Sienna wants to come too…”
I peered into Sienna’s bedroom, knowing that her math office hours ended just moments before. She was in the middle of working on homework but jumped at the chance to take a break and join us for a walk. We like to do the “two cul-de-sacs” in our neighborhood, which is just about a thirty minute walk at the kids’ exploratory pace.
As we were leaving the house, Teo asked, “Hey, could we watch Antiques Roadshow tonight, if we get everything done?” Our weeknight routine does not include any television time for the kids, but it was early and they’re starting to stay up a bit later. Plus, it can be good motivation to get them through their showers if they can watch a little something.
“We’ll see,” I replied in my typical motherly response.
As we started walking, my mind kicked in to overdrive. Okay, Sienna needs to finish her homework, then we can have dinner which is quick because it’s just leftovers. If both kids take showers right after dinner, we should be able to put on the show around 7:00 or so. That way we can still read with the kids and they’ll be asleep at a decent hour. What if Sienna dawdles with her shower or her homework? Well, we’ll just watch it without her…
Meanwhile, on our walk, the kids became super squirrely and silly, pushing and pretending to trip one another. My arm was sore from my second Covid-19 vaccine earlier in the day and I could feel my mood plummeting. I tried to take in the surroundings and let go of my rapidly deteriorating emotions. I told the kids a couple times that their antics were taking away from my enjoyment of our walk. Finally I turned around abruptly and said, “Okay, I’m done. You guys are not making this fun at all.” Mateo protested and begged to finish the second cul-de-sac, but my mind was made up.
When we got home, I went to our bedroom and gave myself a little timeout to pray and ask myself: What’s bothering me? The answer came quickly. Oh, when I started trying to figure out how to control the events of our evening so we could watch the show, that’s when my tension started to build. But, I don’t have to take that on! If everything is done and there’s time to watch it, we’ll put on the show. If not, it’ll just be a good lesson for the kids in the reality of time management.
I felt a sudden lightness of spirit and took a deep breath. What a (completely self-imposed!) burden lifted. It’s not my job to control all the aspects of our family life so that everything fits in perfectly. This is precisely the mindset that causes me to be stuck in my head, disconnected from my emotions and the present moment. A little prayer of surrender followed: Lord, please help us have a good night of connection and fun as a family. Amen. Then I went to the kitchen to start heating up leftovers.
Just a few minutes later, I overhead an exchange between Teo and Dennis. “Dad, can we watch Antiques Roadshow tonight?”
“Why don’t you take your shower right now before dinner so we’ll have time later?”
I smiled to myself as I realized (yet again), how life unfolds just fine without my striving to control it. Better, in fact.
Endurance activities have long held a certain mystique, curiosity and interest for me. About five years ago I ran my first (and to date, only) marathon. Running long distances has been my main source of exercise for most of my adult life. More than the physical benefits, running provides time alone to pray, breathe, and connection with the moment. Running is such a source of peace and joy!
I also love to swim, but the pandemic has kept me out of the pool for a while now. So, it was really engaging to read Diana Nyad’s memoirFind a Way: The Inspiring Story of One Woman’s Pursuit of a Lifelong Dream recently. As you may recall, Diana Nyad finally accomplished her dream of swimming from Cuba to Florida in the fall of 2013. Her miraculous swim (without a shark tank) took nearly 54 hours of continuous swimming!
It was so interesting to learn about the challenges and nuances of marathon swimming. Issues to manage include sleep deprivation, salt water chaffing, seasickness, sharks and jellyfish, to name a few. Navigating the Gulf Stream was a huge challenge to the crossing as navigators have to consider winds and the direction of the jet stream to ensure proper landfall.
But, the most fascinating part of her story is the mental strength Diana cultivated through years of swimming for long durations. Her training swims would routinely last 15-20 hours! She would mentally do counting progressions of different increments (and in four languages!) as well as sing songs in her mind during the many hours of isolation. Passing the time without dwelling on how much longer she had to go seemed to be the biggest challenge.
I felt so inspired by this story! Truly, Diana cultivated an ability to persevere through extreme pain for prolonged periods of time. Relating to some of Diana’s insights into the nature of endurance activities lit a fire in me to enjoy longer runs the past few weeks. Especially her comments about the journey being more important than the destination or goal. Although she did eventually achieve her goal (on her fifth try!) and felt such fulfillment in accomplishing it, Diana ultimately learned that all the work she put in training for the swim was worthwhile and important, even if she’d never made it.
I’ve thought a lot about enjoying the process, showing up and engaging in life as I learned to be present in the moment and let go of control. It can be easy to focus on goals and outcomes for motivation, but that mindset tends to pull me into controlling thinking patterns and away from the joy of connection to the moment. For example, when I read book with the goal of getting through it versus enjoying the process of reading. Or, when I set out to run with a set mileage or time in mind versus going for a run to enjoy the process of running.
This past week I ran 12 miles at Lake Miramar and really felt present and engaged in the act of running. As I was checking my phone for messages before getting into the car, a fellow runner asked me, “How’d you like your time?” assuming that I was checking my running pace. This gentleman is in his 60s and clearly an experienced runner (he’d passed me on the second lap a little while ago).
“Oh, I’m actually not tracking my pace. Trying to just enjoy the process of running,” I replied with a smile.
“Good for you!” he said. “Well, you look good out there, very smooth.”
“Oh, thanks!” I exclaimed. “Have a good day!”
This little exchange was so delightful! To have a seasoned runner affirm the virtue of running without tracking my time made me feel seen. Also, I felt like I hit a really strong and steady rhythm in the run, which is what I think he noticed when he said my running looked smooth out there.
Have you intentionally experienced an activity while deemphasizing the outcome or result? How did it feel? What did you learn?
The kids and I recently started a routine of taking long drives on Friday afternoons after school; not every week, but frequently. We usually swing through the Starbucks drive-through and then head to the coast via Rancho Santa Fe. What began as a pandemic coping strategy turned into one of the highlights of our week! We’ve had some wonderful conversations about school and life during these pretty drives.
Back in the fall, Teo and I discovered a cool little used bookstore in Encinitas called Artifact Books. For the past month or so, I kept thinking we should hit this bookstore on one of our Friday drives, and this past Friday was the day. After getting fuel, both for our vehicle and us, we headed to Encinitas by a different route through Rancho Santa Fe. It was a beautiful, sunny day and the drive was so lovely! Winding, tree-lined roads, with vegetation in full spring bloom.
Early in the drive, Sienna turned on Michael Card’s The Life, Disc 2. This two disc sets the life of Jesus from his incarnation through his resurrection to music. The second disc includes songs covering his passion and crucifixion and the CD was already on track #7. I warned the kids, “We’re about to get to Jesus’s trial and crucifixion, so the tone of these songs will be sad and dark.”
“We know, it’s okay,” Sienna replied.
As the music played, Teo asked some historical and theological questions about the song lyrics, most of which Sienna promptly answered while I marveled at her Biblical knowledge. Bible class at school the past three years have definitely infiltrated her mind and heart.
We made it to the coast, parked in the tiny lot, masked up and walked to the entrance of the store. We were greeted with a posted sign: “Closed on Friday, March 26th, sorry for the inconvenience”.
“Oh man, they’re closed!” I exclaimed. Teo read the sign aloud and we all looked at one another, bewildered.
We got back in the car and I did a quick search for other used bookstores in the area, to no avail. “Well, guys, I guess we’ll just head home,” I said. “Yep. Okay,” they conceded. We all rolled with this change of plans quite easily. The kids are pretty tired by Friday afternoon and seem to enjoy the peace of the drive more than anything.
One of my favorite Michael Card songs came on as we started our drive back through Encinitas, Joy in the Journey:
There is a joy in the journey There’s a light we can love on the way There is a wonder and wildness to life and freedom for those who obey All those who seek it shall find it A pardon for all who believe
We turned down a particularly picturesque street, lined with mesquite trees and pastures full of horses. Sienna suddenly sighed and said, “I’m just so happy with life right now.” It was such a relatable moment, that feeling of everything being right in the world. I smiled at her and patted her leg. When these tender moments arise, I try to really soak them in.
Reflecting on our drive, I marveled that the bookstore being closed was just a funny anecdote to our trip. It didn’t ruin the outing or leave us feeling disappointed and frustrated. Having an attitude of “Oops, these things happen!” helped me accept the moment and not dwell on it. What I’ll remember from this Friday drive was simply being with the kids, sharing sacred music and enriching conversation.
You can’t plan or predict when moments of connection and meaning will occur, but being present helps you enjoy them fully.
Ever since she was a baby, Sienna wakes up in a dreamy and happy way. The old adage to “never wake a sleeping baby” totally didn’t apply to her. She’d wake up with joy and enthusiasm, as if to say “What exciting new thing awaits me?!” Fortunately, this sweet trait continues to bless our mornings.
Typically, I’ll go into Sienna’s room to wake her, after Dennis, Teo and I have been up for a while already. As she’s a young teenager now, I really cherish the morning routine of waking her. I bask in her sweetness before she’s conscious enough to roll her eyes at me. Often I’ll gentle stroke her face until her eyes flutter open. Other times, I’ll be silly (on mornings when I’ve already had some coffee) and animate her teddy bear, or I’ll start singing a song like “Rise and Shine and Give God the Glory”.
We recently planted a couple vines outside her bedroom window, so I started pulling aside the curtain by her bed as we greet the day. One is a baby pink climbing rose and the other is a beautiful jasmine plant that smells amazing! They’re both just getting started, but we’re excited to watch them grow.
This past Monday morning, I pulled the curtain back and spontaneously broke into the old Oklahoma song “Oh, What a Beautiful Morning”:
Oh, what a beautiful morning, Oh, what a beautiful day, I’ve got a wonderful feeling, Everything’s going my way.
Before her eyes even opened, Sienna smiled at me.
Both of my parents brought music and special songs into our lives. It’s amazing how often those songs make the trek from the recesses of my mind into the present moment. Throughout my childhood, my dad would often sing “Oh, What a Beautiful Morning” all the way through. Just when we were giggling and assumed the song had to stop soon, he’d go for the next verse or another time through the chorus. I have such fond memories of him belting out that tune!
I’ve been reflecting on the sweet moments of family life lately. Sienna and Mateo have grown so much this past year and time feels like it’s flying by! I want to cherish the routine moments of our days, the ones I will miss when they’re off to college and living away from home. When I think back to my childhood, it’s the songs, traditions, and moments of connection with my mom, dad, brother and sister that remind me of the love that surrounded us. I pray our kids cherish these moments too.